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Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PMBy Leslie Bennetts

Women are constantly being told that it s simply too difficult to balance work and family, so if they don t really have to work, it s better for their families if they stay home Not only is this untrue, Leslie Bennetts says, but the arguments in favor of stay at home motherhood fail to consider the surprising benefits of work and the unexpected toll of giving it up It Women are constantly being told that it s simply too difficult to balance work and family, so if they don t really have to work, it s better for their families if they stay home Not only is this untrue, Leslie Bennetts says, but the arguments in favor of stay at home motherhood fail to consider the surprising benefits of work and the unexpected toll of giving it up It s time, she says, to get the message across combining work and family really is the best choice for most women, and it s eminently doable.Bennetts raised two children while earning a living, and understands the challenges and the rewards firsthand She and millions of other working women provide ample proof that there are many different ways to have kids, maintain a challenging career, and have a richly rewarding life as a result When women sacrifice their financial autonomy by quitting their jobs, they become vulnerable to divorce as well as the potential illness, death, or unemployment of their breadwinner husbands The truth is that when women gamble on dependency, most eventually end up on the wrong side of the odds.Not since Betty Friedan has anyone offered such an eye opening and persuasive argument for why women can and should embrace the joyously complex lives they deserve.
  • Title: The Feminine Mistake: Are We Giving Up Too Much?
  • Author: Leslie Bennetts
  • ISBN: 9780061438257
  • Page: 347
  • Format: Audio CD

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Books Ring Mah Bell Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
Are we giving up too much You bet your ass we are only 90 pages in This is not my review the following is in response to a nasty message that was sent to me.For the sender of the hate mail you listen to Dr Laura, don t you I love my child, but I disagree that everything I do should revolve around him His well being comes first, but let me tell you, I was a person with interests and hobbies before he came along and I will be that person when he grows up and leaves this home You do realize that th [...]
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Books Ring Mah Bell Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
20 years ago, in a mouse infested, 1 bedroom apartment in a scary neighborhood, I sat across from my mom, watching her weep over the checkbook Wiping the tears from her eyes, she told me, Don t ever depend on a man to take care of you Recently divorced, she was struggling to put food on the table, a roof over our heads and hand me down clothes on my back.Now here I am, a stay at home mom who depends on my husband financially Okay, I work maybe 30 hours a month My son stays home with my husband w [...]
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Nicole Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
When I first started reading this book I hated Ms Bennetts and thought she was a smug self righteous person I just edited myself I stopped reading and cursed her for hating stay at home mothers so much full disclosure, I am a stay at home mother But then I thought about it Why had I reacted so strongly to this book and her ideas Because on some level I knew she was right, or at least her points applied to me.The basic thrust of the book is that women give up too much when they choose to give up [...]
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Julie Ehlers Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
The publisher seems to have marketed The Feminine Mistake as a kind of self help book for women, which does the book a disservice it s actually a pretty detailed work of reporting, about a topic that shouldn t be controversial but somehow still is that it s not a great idea for a woman to be completely financially dependent on a man Among other things, this book is full of sobering stories of women who stayed home for years and were eventually blindsided by their husband losing his job, their hu [...]
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Heather Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
All women MUST read this bookLeslie Bennetts The Feminine Mistake Are We Giving Up Too Much To say it is life altering is a huge understatement In a nutshell, she tackles the premise that women who quit working because their husband will take care of them with or without children is a really stupid idea on oh so many levelsially, emotionally, mentally And that this causes an infantilizing situation in which the woman becomes like a child to her own spouse, and is typically disengaged with co man [...]
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Claudia Putnam Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
I m late to the party with this Finally got around to it I guess I put it off figuring I d disagree with it since I m kind of a textbook case for the mistake Bennetts wrote the book after she read about a bunch of Ivy League Xers I think, maybe they were early Millennials who d been interviewed somewhere and were saying they intended to stay home with their kids when they had them She, like many first wave feminists, was horrified and wanted to rebut These young Yalies being the first gen of kid [...]
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Jen Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
This is a must read for all women, especially those about to embark on a new career Bennetts has performed extensive research with working women, stay at home mothers, sociologists, and lawyers to explore the economic effects of opting out of the workforce Dependency is very risky and I think it s important for women to consider the whole picture before they give up their careers Children don t need constant surveillance between birth and college Mothers who stay home that whole time find it di [...]
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Alisha Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
Five stars for the ways it changed my perspective, enlightened me to the possibilities in my life, and made me smarten up a bit during this rough financial patch Zero stars for her rants.This is a book review that I want to discuss I want to sit with friends and talk about this books Present the info to them, get their input and responses I think there is so much valuable information in this book that can be tempered and flexible to the betterment of women I wonder what it would have been like i [...]
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Elizabeth Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
Bennetts, the author of this fab book, makes an airtight case against not dropping out of the workforce entirely post children I first came across the book when I noticed one of the women in my Research Methods class with it I picked it up and scanned it quickly As a Confidence Coach who deals exclusively with women on all issues related to self esteem, i.e everything in their life as they know it, I often encounter women who apparently have it all but still feel an elusive sense of something mi [...]
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Gwen Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
I have never read such a sanctimonious piece of writing This is everything that s wrong with Boomer feminism and the third wave in general This snotty condescension is why people don t like feminists Leslie Bennets is the absolute embodiment of our PR problem.I listened to the audiobook, and at first I thought I might just be getting a biased read of it because the narrator was always reading the author as a sarcastic know it all and SAHMs as whiny, ignorant children Then I realized the author n [...]
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Lisa Mettauer Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
I have a bunch of complaints about The Feminine Mistake Are We Giving Up Too Much by Leslie Bennetts But I m still going to recommend it to every young woman or mother with daughters.Bennetts, a journalist from NYC, writes about the recent trend of working women quitting their jobs to stay home to raise their children Mostly well educated and upperclass, these women devote themselves entirely to supporting their husbands in their lucrative careers and providing the best life for their kids Yet w [...]
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Shelah Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
Bennetts explores the reasons why upper middle class professional women shouldn t quit their day jobs to stay at home with their kids She makes arguments for loss of earning power, loss of sharp brain function, loss of job skills, loss of independence, and age and gender discrimination.Bennetts makes excellent points in her book, most convincingly the argument that giving up a career entirely limits women s economic freedom, putting her in golden handcuffs to her husband And what if the man leav [...]
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Allyson Schaeffer Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
every woman should read this book scratch that every person should read this book As one reviewee stated, Bennett makes an airtight case for why women and their spouse should consider the whole picture before opting out of the workforce when they decide to have children Unlike some books, she doesn t simply state you shouldn t stay home period I was impressed with the variety of interviews she performed and with her view that if one does stay home, male or female, make a solid financial plan for [...]
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Linda Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
Some very valid points were made, albeit too repetitively, concerning the economic life choices women make The reader must also wade through an inordinate amount of examples taken from the wealthy upper class, but ultimately the author asks the questions I was waiting for Most importantly for me, how can we contribute to societal change that facilitates truly egalitarian partnerships in marriage
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Corey Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
This is a tiresome book One which, though written by a journalist of some acclaim, is woefully unbalanced From it, we mothers are to learn that staying at home with children is simply not good enough, financially dangerous, and probably a waste of our talents While it is worthwhile to remember that happy endings don t always happen, I disagree that a penniless future awaits every single mother who chooses not to work.
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Lacey Louwagie Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
I m glad I read this book, but it will take than a book review to encompass my thoughts on it a long conversation with my mom, who was both a stay at home mom and a working mom at different points in our lives, some chats while walking the dog with my husband, and an ongoing series of booklikes blog entries have all helped In some ways, this is an updated version of The Feminine Mystique a critique of women s continuing to make the choice to give up their own income to raise children, and an as [...]
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Dehlia Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
Okay, I am not done yet and I will finish, but I don t think it is going to change my mind The problem with this book is that the women who LOVE their jobs and would never leave them have incredibly cushy, glamorous, financially rewarding careers It is entirely unrealistic and reminds me of some high falutin white upper class woman standing on a soapbox non toxic, water lily scented preaching to her underlings and for that reason, isn t relevant enough for the majority of women battling a very d [...]
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Christine Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
Ahh where to begin I heard about this book from a married women s chat board type website As a working woman who is pregnant and considering becoming a stay at home mom SAHM I figured this would be a good read.The author makes several good points A man is not a financial plan Just because you can stay home doesn t mean you should Women give up a lot of financial security to be able to stay home AND that is a stupid decision to make given that 50% of marriages end in divorce It is harder to re en [...]
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Kathryn Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
Firstly, I will say that this is a truly thought provoking book The crux of Bennett s book is concerned with the recent trend of highly educated women deferring and perhaps unknowingly derailing their careers to devote themselves full time to motherhood She stridently argues that a woman s decision to place her entire financial future into the hands of her husband is a recipe for personal disaster, and interviews a host of women who can attest to the havoc the loss of a spouse s job, or the brea [...]
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Lisa Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
To put it mildly, this is a divisive book though I believe it should not be Bennetts thesis is that many women make the choice to stay home with children without adequately protecting their own, or their children s, financial future Stay at home moms are up in arms attacking it, and without reason says I Bennetts does not condemn the choice to stay home she questions the wisdom of doing so without protecting oneself financially e.g keeping up with industry trends and maintaining relationships so [...]
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Cara Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
Leslie Bennetts makes a very compelling argument against women giving up their careers to support their families, even if they are financially able to rely on their husband s income What a woman gives up when she leaves the workforce, even temporarily, is much greater than just the lost income I do have friends who are stay at home moms though I do not personally expect to ever have that choice, much less actually make that decision , and I do support their choice to live their life as they choo [...]
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Lindsay Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
I can t agree with the premise of this book The subject matter gets me so riled up that I had to read something else before I turned off the lights or else I would have never went to sleep I see this happening all around me yet no one even bats an eye at it.
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Katelyn Joy Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
This book s overall message is wonderful, but it starts to feel like there is a mandated length about 3 4 through She has a lot of good interviews and research pieces to support her points, but it gets redundant Still worth a read for women
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Leila Runyan Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
The points were good However, I found the message to be redundant.
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Michele Minor Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
This book is a must read for young men and women who are looking at getting married and having children The author takes a hard look at the reality of staying home with the kids and the negative consequences to the parent staying at home She goes over the positive effect that having both parents working can have on children She takes the emotion out of it and looks at the cold hard facts based on her personal experience with her grandmother and mother She dispels the myth that a man is a plan wh [...]
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Ashley Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
I LOVED this book I think it should be mandatory reading for every teen girl, young woman, old lady, and enlightened husband Bennetts point is this women are putting themselves in a precarious situation when they choose to stay at home Putting all your eggs your entire life in the hands of another person no matter if it s your husband is not the wisest move one could make The divorce rate is 50%, young seemingly healthy men die, accidents happen, people get sick, people lose their jobs, etc No o [...]
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Alex Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
I think this book could as well have been a much shorter essay I m still going to give it 4 stars because the main message was so poignant and important I see many women around me who let the romantic ideal that it would be nice to be taken care of protected etc, lead them to relinquish of their independence then necessary I hope none of them come to regret it But in this modern society we presumably live in, where women and men are supposed to be equal, can t we navigate our financial situati [...]
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Amelia Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
Clearly written to support working moms and justifies the juggling act
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Ali Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
I liked the book and I wholeheartedly agree with the argument within it but it was just too long It started out as a series of articles, I think, and it should have stayed that way.
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Jessica Apr 04, 2020 - 13:18 PM
I really liked this book it is very thought provoking It helps to validate my current position and makes me feel better that I have no choice in working.DISCLAIMER 1 This book does not really go into detail about the affect on the kids There have been numerous studies on the impact of childcare or staying at home on kids this isn t one of them It is all about the mom Supplement to this disclaimer is that the book does not take into account stay at home dads, which are increasing today DISCLAIMER [...]
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The Feminine Mistake: Are We Giving Up Too Much? By Leslie Bennetts Women are constantly being told that it s simply too difficult to balance work and family, so if they don t really have to work, it s better for their families if they stay home Not only is this untrue, Leslie Bennetts says, but the arguments in favor of stay at home motherhood fail to consider the surprising benefits of work and the unexpected toll of giving it up It Women are constantly being told that it s simply too difficult to balance work and family, so if they don t really have to work, it s better for their families if they stay home Not only is this untrue, Leslie Bennetts says, but the arguments in favor of stay at home motherhood fail to consider the surprising benefits of work and the unexpected toll of giving it up It s time, she says, to get the message across combining work and family really is the best choice for most women, and it s eminently doable.Bennetts raised two children while earning a living, and understands the challenges and the rewards firsthand She and millions of other working women provide ample proof that there are many different ways to have kids, maintain a challenging career, and have a richly rewarding life as a result When women sacrifice their financial autonomy by quitting their jobs, they become vulnerable to divorce as well as the potential illness, death, or unemployment of their breadwinner husbands The truth is that when women gamble on dependency, most eventually end up on the wrong side of the odds.Not since Betty Friedan has anyone offered such an eye opening and persuasive argument for why women can and should embrace the joyously complex lives they deserve.

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